A second chance.

An advent into the new life and a few steps here and there, and viola,its all different now! What you ask? My life for instance? A new job, a new family, a new husband( can they ever get old ~ literally yes, figuratively that is?), the same me, a new place, a new home and a whole new world undefined, raw and ready for me to mold it.

I figured becoming a Mrs. wasn't going to be that hard, but over the last 3 months, boy have I been proved right! Yes, right! May be it attributes to a rather easy husband and an adorably loving in-laws that I landed! Touch wood? Yes, I am touching as much of the wood as I could possibly can.I lucked out! I am still Me,the same Me, who is extremely independent(good n bad) and among all other things, still loves to write, but one thing I have to say I have new in me is, I feel I have a purpose and reason for all things I do. It's just not for me anymore, which I could have cared less before, and that is such a profound feeling. To do something, out of your own self for someone else's convenience is such a great feeling. I try not to get carried if some of the small deeds go unnoticed, but I err at times. To instantaneously become an aunt to someone, to become a niece to someone else and sister in law to another, its overwhelming, but when you sit back, relax and think about it, these relations are also so fresh and new, you pretty much control how you want to form them and in which direction. Often I hear and have repeatedly heard from newly wedded women, how over burdening their in-laws are, how they have to follow traditions to a T,etc etc, but honestly, I think, its a two way road,you give respect you get some. If one stubbornly disregards what the in-laws insist has been their tradition for ages, one is going to be met with immense resistance, ill feelings and what not..I am no pro in it, I am sure if I were living in India and had to follow these things,and work and do everything else, I would be at my wits end too, but then, as cliched as it is, everything, and everyone can be won over with love, time and patience, it really does! I have learnt that sacrificing some things so that others can be happy, only elevates you in their eyes and that opens so many more doors for moderation! Many often tend to forget that when they marry someone, they are NOT marrying just the guy, its literally the whole family!!

No guru that I am, learning things as I go..and all I can say in these 3-4 months, love grows and relationships grow stronger, only if they are both nurtured. Life should not need compromises from only one end..it has to be mutual adjustment..it takes a lot of patience and a lot more energy and a life time to make any relationship a success, marriage is just a way to make a new beginning at it...a second chance.